Whose Job Is It To Like Me?

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“It’s not your job to like me — its mine.”

-Byron Katie

The Romantics’ song “What I Like About You” is an 80s classic. Remember the simple lyrics? “What I like about you, you keep me warm at night.  Never wanna let you go, know you make me feel alright, yeah.”

How true, likeability can be that easy. You are infinitely likeable but then, as the wise Byron Katie reminds us,  it isn’t my job to affirm your likeability — it is your job.

I know it can be easy to slip, to focus on what we don’t like about ourselves. To feel hungry for someone else to affirm how likeable we are in this rough and tumble, photo-shopped world. Quiet your inner critic with these steps.

1) In the moment #affirmation:

Speak:  I own that it is my job to like me and I DO.

Write:  three things I like about me in this moment are…

Speak/read again.

2) Reflecting over my life #affirmation:

Speak:  I do not spend energy and time worrying about whether others like me.  I’ll ask the one who matters – me.

Write:  Three things that I’ve always liked about me throughout my life are…

Speak/read again.

3) Being kind to myself and others is something I truly value #affirmation:  

Speak:  I’ll be likeable. That means I’ll be vulnerable, open and kind to myself — and others.

Write:  Three acts of kindness I invested in this week that affirm I like myself are…

Write:  Three acts of kindness I invested in showing others I like them this week are…

Speak/read again.

#PeaceHug, Jone

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