Show A Little (Self) Love

A new week is before us, a week of possibilities not just outside us, but inside us too. Good Choice Last week, my 4-year old nephew looked up at my Mom and said, “Good choice.” She can’t even remember what the context was, what she recalls is how “good choice” stopped her in her tracks and made her smile. We’ve been giggling about that all week and saying "good choice" throughout the day to ourselves and to others. It is amazing how uplifting something as simple as stopping and saying “good choice” is! Don’t Take Yourself for Granted   Write down: "Today, you will be kind to yourself. You will pause and show yourself kindness by recognizing and acknowledging yourself for little things and big things.” Make a conscientious decision to not take yourself for granted. Take the time to be your own best friend! Your reminder note could be as simple as “Today, you’ll stop and say ‘good choice’ when you make one.” Put that note in one of the first places you look every morning, a self-kindness reminder note to YOU. Launch the Day Differently Instead of checking Facebook, watching the news, or reading the paper first thing in the morning, launch your day with something … [Read more...]

How to Defeat Self-Defeating Thoughts

"You're a loser, you're never going to succeed." "You can't possibly learn that, you're too stupid." "You keep failing, why even try." What would happen if your coach, boss, teacher or friend said that to you? Report them! Cut ties with them! Maybe you'd even picture yourself hitting them -- at least with a pillow. So why are you talking to yourself this way?   How can we defeat these self-defeating thoughts that stop us from living and working as imperfect but whole and worthy persons? Assess the Evidence. What evidence do I really have that this is true? Come on, not a one of us is perfect and there are no "always" absolutes in this world. Yes, we all fail. Think about times you actually did fail and picked yourself up again. What worked? Check the Story. Is this just a story I'm telling myself? Ask a trusted person in your life -- I'll bet they tell you're living in fantasy land, not the real world, with these self-defeating thoughts. Flip It. What happens when you breathe and then shift each thought to something positive? Try it! "I'm a loser, I never succeed," becomes "I'm persistant, I often succeed." Stop & Be Grateful. Accept those … [Read more...]

Be Intentionally ‘Re-Inventional’

Hey you, I know you, you are... AMAZING WORTHY WHOLE POWERFUL Give yourself PERMISSION to start fresh this year! The past was a learning experience and this year, pick just one REENERGIZING, REINVIGORATING, REJUVENATING WORD to describe YOU. BEAUTIFUL WISE KIND You have the power to define you!  Go on, be like Madonna (okay, or Miley if you are so inclined) and be a little bit intentionally 'RE-INVENTIONAL.'   STRONG BRAVE Start with how you talk to yourself.   Choose one word you'll use all year long to describe YOU to YOU!  There is not one other living being quite like you. YOU are wonderfully whole and worthy...yes, YOU. Love & #PeaceHug for Your Best Year Yet!        … [Read more...]

Affirming Your Worth

This week, let's check in with our inside! Accomplishments, activities, accolades and things can be wonderfully validating but think about it, external validation doesn't entirely make for happiness, at least not the sustainable kind. Building a sense of self-worth that is independently strong, internally solid, is the greatest gift we can give ourselves. Recently during a #TweetChat I mentioned the research-based 5:1 Rule. Highly effective leaders (we're all leading something, not the least of which is our lives) positively acknowledge and recognize others' contributions -- "what's working" -- five times more than "what needs work" to healthily engage others and produce the best results. Imagine if we applied the 5:1 Rule to ourselves? For every one thing we say to ourselves that we need to improve, learn, change or stop doing or thinking, we recognize ourselves with five positive things about how we are being and what we are doing. Pledge:  I'll use the 5:1 Rule on ME! Try it now! How did that self-love feel? If you're anything like me, this practice might feel uncomfortable or downright impossible initially. We've internalized messages about pleasing others … [Read more...]

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