Gratitude Myth-Busting

It takes a lot of courage to be a strong and grateful woman. Myths swirl about both. Strong women are still perceived as difficult or angry, b*tches or worse. Being a kind and grateful women makes you a doormat, a Pollyanna, or just silly. After 15 years of research here's what Dr. Richard Emmons, the world's foremost authority on gratitude, says that shatters gratitude myths... 5 Gratitude Myths Busted Myth 1 - Gratitude leads to complacency. Busted: Being grateful doesn't make you lazy, it gives you a sense of purpose and desire to do more. Myth 2 - Gratitude makes us too self-effacing. Busted: From my observation, when women state they're grateful it is often perceived by others as weakness. Gratitude is actually associated with a greater sense of personal control over one’s success according to studies on this powerful trait. Myth 3 - Gratitude isn't possible -- or appropriate -- in the midst of suffering. Busted: Science suggests we can cultivate or maintain an attitude of gratitude through hard times, and that we’ll be better for it. Even when suffering intensely, keeping a gratitude journal is likely to lift your spirits and connectedness to others which … [Read more...]

Work Thrill is Gone? Apply Love Research

“Sometimes Blues Singer” is included in my @jonebosworth twitter profile. Funnily, this seems to give me as much credibility as my juris doctor degree—maybe more. The Blues is uniquely American, a genre of music that emerged in the 1890s. Blues deeply influenced greats like Elvis, Aretha Franklin, Bob Dylan, and the Rolling Stones. (And me.) Blues' people love painful stories. We love grit and growl and getting it all out there. One of the best parts of my life is singing with Blues bands, sitting out in fields listening to Blues players, or (back-in-the-day) hanging out in dark, smoke-filled bars relishing anyone who plays old Blues standards. The Thrill is Gone If you’re scratching your head wondering where this is leading, I’ve been reflecting on the winter blues and blahs. Our intentions wane; work motivation fades. We tend to thinking about work in the future year, not the present. The work thrill is gone? Even if you're not a Blues music fan you’ve likely heard "The Thrill is Gone," a classic song most famously recorded by B.B. King. The thrill is gone, 
it's gone away from me
. The thrill is gone, baby, 
the thrill is gone away from me. Although, I'll still … [Read more...]

Be Countercultural, Be Grateful

Sitting on the front porch drinking my morning coffee, a visiting Aunt startles me by bursting out the door, lifting her hands in the air, saying "Thank you Jesus for this beautiful day!" Although we may not share the same spiritual beliefs, I couldn't help but admire her gratitude practice that involved her whole body. Every time I think of it, I smile. It reminds me to amp up my own gratitude practice. Researchers have demonstrated that gratitude creates a healthier, happier and more fulfilling state of being. According to The Institute of HearthMath, sustained feelings of gratitude have real health benefits, including: Biochemical changes – Favorable changes in the body’s biochemistry include improved hormonal balance and an increase in production of DHEA, the "anti-aging hormone." Increased positivity – Favorable changes in the body’s Daily gratitude exercises can bring about a greater level of positive  feelings, according to researchers from the University of Miami and the University of California, Davis who studied this process in 157 individuals over 13 days. Boost to the immune system – The IgA antibody, which serves as the first line of defense … [Read more...]

3 Labor Day Honey-Dos

In the U.S., Labor Day weekend marks the end of summer. School begins, or gets fully into swing. Darkness comes earlier. Hopefully, temps cool. If you’re in the Midwest like me, you’re less likely to be sucked up in a tornado after Labor Day. Over Labor Day weekend, most of us steel ourselves for what’s to come, knowing we’ll work without a real break ‘til winter holidays. (Especially now that retail stores are open on Thanksgiving, but I’ll stop myself from going off a rant about that). Usually, we create a "Honey-Do" list for ourselves or for others, things that must get done this long weekend as it may be our last 3-day break until New Year's. This Labor Day, prepare strategically. Be intentional. Make time to do even one of these Honey-Dos and I guarantee your journey between now and winter holidays will be smoother. Follow all three Labor Day Honey-Dos and you’ll really soar! 1. Joy Jar: Not Just for Kids “Count your blessings.” While the phrase seems a bit antiquated today, something grandma told us, what if we literally did count the good things in our lives—those moments, even split seconds when we’re filled with gratitude? Research now tells us grandma was … [Read more...]

3 Great Lessons from The Rolling Stones

“War, children, it’s just a shot away…” Lyrics from The Rolling Stones’ song Gimme Shelter are stuck in my mind this week. If you pay attention to the news, Gimme Shelter might be on your mind too. Songs can lift us up, they can rile us up. Some songs soothe our souls and help us heal. Creativity, awareness, energy and joy flow from songs too. As Stella Adler wrote, “Life beats you down and crushes the soul and art reminds you that you have one.” Remember Gimme Shelter’s soulfully hopeful line: “Love, sister, is just a kiss away.” Arguably, the Stones have no peer. Sure, there’s the Mick Jagger factor. But in large part the Stones’ 50+ year hold on us is due to their “sticky” song lyrics. These lyrics stay with us because we can relate, because they touch on some universal truth of our human experience. I dug into Stones’ song lyrics. What amazed me most? Many songs hold great lessons for work and life. Yeah, there’s sex, drugs and rock n’ roll, but three songs about failing, losing, and bouncing back leapt out at me. Lesson 1: “Sometime you had to fail, don’t you know sometime you want to cry…” No doubt you’ve suffered disappointments, my friend. Me too. The Stones … [Read more...]

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