Show A Little (Self) Love

A new week is before us, a week of possibilities not just outside us, but inside us too. Good Choice Last week, my 4-year old nephew looked up at my Mom and said, “Good choice.” She can’t even remember what the context was, what she recalls is how “good choice” stopped her in her tracks and made her smile. We’ve been giggling about that all week and saying "good choice" throughout the day to ourselves and to others. It is amazing how uplifting something as simple as stopping and saying “good choice” is! Don’t Take Yourself for Granted   Write down: "Today, you will be kind to yourself. You will pause and show yourself kindness by recognizing and acknowledging yourself for little things and big things.” Make a conscientious decision to not take yourself for granted. Take the time to be your own best friend! Your reminder note could be as simple as “Today, you’ll stop and say ‘good choice’ when you make one.” Put that note in one of the first places you look every morning, a self-kindness reminder note to YOU. Launch the Day Differently Instead of checking Facebook, watching the news, or reading the paper first thing in the morning, launch your day with something … [Read more...]

Women Work Your Connections

Imagine that I’m strapping you into the pilot’s seat of a 747 right this second. I expect you to fly and land the plane safely with no instructions, no experience, no co-pilot (auto or otherwise), and no radio to contact with the tower. How does that feel? How successful do you think you’ll be? For women, being told we need to work our connections to better business and professional advantage—to advance ourselves and our causes—feels an awful lot like putting our buns in that pilot’s seat. Go on gals, take that solo-flight. You’re educated. After all, you have a graduate degree in, say, psychology so why can’t you smoothly pilot this (business) plane? Why is it so critical that we women get much better at working our connections? Connections become relationships, relationships equate to success: sales, promotions, new opportunities, more champions and alliances, and growth-to-results that we really want. What I (Unfortunately) Hear Women Say I have so many conversations with creative, talented, sharp-as-whip women where a “connections” issue flared up. During these conversations, here are the types of things I most frequently hear: The Self-Doubter: “I know, I should … [Read more...]

Jane Austen’s Top Ten Quotes for 21st Century Women

She writes about women and money. She illuminates how difficult it is to be female in a male dominated world. She’s a celebrity without a memoir. She certainly didn't need a sex tape or a reality t.v. show. In fact, she was never even interviewed. Jane Austen attracts readers (and re-readers) like no other. She also attracted her share of haters among the literari–both women and men—like Virginia Woolf and Ralph Waldo Emerson. Much as I love Mark Twain, he was the nastiest: “Every time I read Pride and Prejudice I want to dig her up and beat her over the skull with her own shin bone!” Seriously. Shame on you, Mr. Twain. You can’t stop us, nothing can. We women love Jane Austen. No, it isn’t because we are all looking for a Mr. Darcy. (Though I have to admit, Darcy’s 10,000 pounds a year is now worth at least $600,000 U.S. dollars annually today, a sum I believe I could live on.) Rather, its Austen’s quick wit and sharp insights that stick with us. That and her incredible ability to reveal truths about human behavior that ring true today. You don’t have to be an Austen fan to appreciate the lessons on how we should expect to be treated, who we need to surround ourselves … [Read more...]

Acting Fearless

My nephew Connor insists that he suffers from Coulrophobia: fear of clowns. An actor in university, recently he played the part of Rainbow Sprinkles, an ebullient clown trying to get hired to perform at a children's birthday party. Interviewing with a hyper-politically correct mother, poor Mr. Sprinkles' cheerful spirit is crushed by the end of the play as every conceivable part of his act is deemed potentially offensive to some child (or child's parent). Admittedly biased, I thought he was a magnificent clown, especially in light of his purported clown phobia. The mental health community does not, however, recognize Coulrophobia as an official diagnosis. This fact compelled me to ask him, "Is this a real fear or is your fear of clowns, perhaps, just a wee bit of dramatic tendencies at work?"  With a 'duh' look on his face (if you've ever been around teenagers, you know the duh look I'm talking about), Connor says, "How one feels is always real." I went for the double-duh, "How can you play a clown if you're terrified of them?" "It's called acting, Aunt Jone," he snorts. What if you act fearless? Dictionaries define fear as a painful emotion caused by impending … [Read more...]

Leaders for the End-of-the-World

Aliens invade and humankind goes into hiding. A flu virus wipes out most of the world’s population. The power across the globe goes out and can’t be turned back on. Robots we created take over and we’re on the run to find a new planet to colonize. Flesh-eating zombies are everywhere and the remaining survivors desperately avoid being bitten. Civilization is under totalitarian, Big Brotheresque rule, but just over the horizon there’s freedom, if one of us can just make it there. We love these end-of-the-world stories. End-of-the-world films, television series, and novels reign as most-watched, most-read today. But wait, it isn’t “the end,” rather a post-apocalyptic world where the end doesn’t quite come. Naturally, we can’t bear to imagine that none of us survive. Let’s leave ‘real-world’ future of leadership predictions to others for a moment. Instead, let’s tap into our imaginations. Notice in the fictional, yet eerily foreseeable post-apocalyptic world that we love to love: our pre-apocalypse leaders weren’t what we needed them to be. Leaders’ action or inaction caused the apocalyptic event to occur. In fact, this brink-of-human-extinction pickle we’re in … [Read more...]

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